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(Reclaim your power)
Many women choose to live lives in the safety and security of in is known and familiar. It can be done in marriage, motherhood, victimhood, or even through ill health. Universally accepted concepts about these things make it easy to live without ever questioning and at the same time shift blame for any problems to someone else. This allows the person to sit back and enjoy doing nothing with regard to self empowerment or independence. They usually live until someone or something "rocks their boat", lives filled with concepts about how everything should look or be in order to be "right" according to current beliefs.
They live as followers of whatever popular world concept happens to be in vogue at the time in order to avoid taking responsibility for themselves and looking to others to make decisions for them. They commonly say; "My husband or kids wouldn't want me to do that" or "I can't because I am not smart enough. How would I survive without my husband's income? My preacher/priest says that is a sin. My family knows what is best for me..." etc. etc... This stagnant approach to living prevents personal growth on all levels. Any dreams or ideas they may of once had, simply wither and die from lack of sustenance frequently adding fuel to the blame and victimhood game. It is a vicious cycle, but one that can be broken.
Women of all ages with low self esteem, frequently strive to emulate the beautiful, rich, and famous even if a particular trend does not even suit them. They mistakenly believe that imitation will bring them the acceptance and love that their idol enjoys. There are those of all ages who dress and act provocatively and allow themselves to be sexually "used" in the false belief that sex is love. The seeking of desirability, love, and "specialness" through the imitation of another indicates a lack of self love and ignorance of ones own uniqueness
The focus of this article is on women, because women are often more susceptible to concepts about women being the weaker sex, always in need of protection, and a firm hand. These concepts also promote the idea that a woman's role and duty is to serve others, sacrifice, (even at the loss of her own self), and "fix" everyone or anything believed to need "fixing". These ideas are usually served up by people in positions of authority who are rigidly attached to what may of worked in the past (tradition or dogma) and are very resistant to change.
Many middle eastern countries still consider women to be invisible and unimportant and enforce these beliefs through laws and attitudes consisting of physical, emotional, and mental bondage. Masculine energy devoid of its feminine aspect will manifest as aggression and violence. Time is quickly running out for those continuing to cling to these obsolete concepts for the majority is beginning to realize that there is no such thing as a weaker sex--different, but not weaker.
Masculine and feminine energies each hold unique qualities that act to support, balance, uphold, and complete the other. When balanced equally in an individual, they manifest as wholeness, completeness, and personal power based in unconditional love.
Feminine energy is less aggressive and more nurturing because it is the receptive, intuitive, gentler facet of Divine energy. Because of these qualities, women were considered weak and less capable of making intelligent decisions about "important" things. Earlier generations accepted these concepts without question even to believing that women were happiest and most content when caring for others (them) through motherhood, marriage, or in performing menial work. Women were expected to be grateful, complacent, and accepting of their "place" and the sad thing is, many women as well as men fully embraced these ideas. Wealth or life experiences occasionally allowed a woman some power to make her own choices, but even then the choices were usually severely restricted.
Some men also choose to live this way--males who allow fear to build for them a "safe" cocoon of non-action while living lives of quiet desperation. These dear souls live constantly fearful of rocking someone's mythical boat while at the same time pretending to be productive and happy. More often than not, they chose a male body for this particular incarnation because on a soul level they realized their need to develop, integrate, and balance more masculine energy.
Everyone is on earth to spiritually evolve and there comes a point in everyone's evolutionary journey when the attainment and balancing of masculine and feminine energies is imperative for spiritual growth. Many have already done this in previous lifetimes and are easily recognizable as individuals who are kind and nurturing (feminine) but also have strong "take charge" energy if necessary. The true essence of every soul is an equal balance of both the masculine (active, be-er, do-er) and the feminine (receptive, intuitive) but this is not generally known or accepted in the human scene.
Gender confusion is the result of a person living lifetime after lifetime as one gender and then between lives realizing that he/she must attain a balance of both the masculine and feminine energies. Then then choose pre-birth to incarnate as the gender they are less familiar with. Once on earth in the density of three dimensional energy and because they still resonate with the familiar energy of the many other lifetimes, he/she believes that somehow they are in the wrong body or that there is a physical problem.
When a woman is spiritually ready and needs to more fully integrate her masculine aspect but continues to ignore doing it, opportunities will begin to arise that force them forward. These "wake up calls" are often necessary for women accustomed to living the status quo--doing what they are told, never asserting themselves or taking responsibility, and feeling no need to change.
She may find her life suddenly filled with one experience after another that forces her to speak up or take some sort of action (masculine-active, be-er, do-er) regardless of how uncomfortable or foreign these experiences may be. These "wake up calls" are never conscious choices because most would choose to avoid them, but the Higher Self knows exactly when a soul is ready for the next phase of their spiritual journey.
The imbalance of masculine and feminine energies on earth has resulted in much misunderstanding with regard to marriage, employment, spirituality, and many facets of ordinary living. There are those so insecure and unsure of who and what they are that they consistently turn to anyone who seems to have answers and in the process, lose themselves even more deeply. Everyone is on earth to exercise their free will, make decisions, and learn from them--some choices may be disastrous and some not. Over lifetimes, making choices and experiencing the consequences of those choices, teaches and eventually awakens every soul to its spiritual nature.
Because the earth is now shifting into the higher frequencies of the ascension process, it is imperative for every evolving soul to acknowledge and step into their personal power. There can be no evolutionary progress if a person continues to hold the belief that everyone was created as a half...half of a couple, half of energy, half of anything.
Up to now, mankind's' ignorance of personal power has allowed governments, educators, churches, families, friends, etc. to make all the rules, but new and higher frequencies of Light are dissolving that which is obsolete and finished. Believing that one's salvation is possible only through the intercession of another, be it Jesus, Buddha, the saints, ascended Beings, your pastor or anyone else is a myth. Everyone is responsible for their own evolution and must do their own spiritual work which can include loving guidance from the spiritual masters if one wants it.
A woman who has integrated her masculine will never again feel obligated to accept another persons choices for her when her own resonate as being correct, nor will she shrink back from her dreams and goals in the belief that a woman she is not allowed to have them. An integrated woman (or man) is not afraid to make decisions and then act upon them, and will never again believe that personal validation is dependant upon outside opinions or concepts. She now realizes that she is a spark of the Divine which means her real Self is whole and complete, always has been and always will be. This realization results in a woman not afraid to put on her "big girl pants".
Self empowerment never excludes asking another's opinion, consulting an expert, considering other's wishes, or family obligations--nor does it mean that every choice will always be the right choice. It does mean having the confidence to make and stand behind one's intuitively guided personal choices which is an activity of the masculine aspect. Mistakes will be made, but one quickly realizes that the sky does not fall down when an erroneous decision is made. This is how inner strength and confidence develops and allows one to make new and perhaps better choices.
To paraphrase Mary Baker Eddy; "my masculine protects, supports, and takes care of my feminine and my feminine nurtures, guides, and loves my masculine..."
LETTING GO OF THE NEED TO SAVE EVERYONE
Serious spiritual students attempting to practice service and unconditional love are often unaware of how intensely they are still programmed by old religious beliefs and outdated concepts teaching that spirituality means “saving” anyone who does not hold "correct" beliefs, that is those held by the person or some religious group.
Because feminine energy is a intuitive, gentle, loving etc. energy, these beliefs have caused many women to embrace this idea more readily than their male counterparts. Many women still believe that they are being loving when they attempt to save someone that they believe is in need of saving.
Women have been taught and preached to, until many of them believe that it is their spiritual duty to sacrifice their own goals and needs for the good of their someone else--children, husband, family, church, etc.. This belief is a flat out denial of one's Divine individuality and right to express it. It is the surrender of one's innate power.
The concept of service at the expense of self as being spiritual, has been and still is promoted by those who see themselves as separate from others and thus interpret love in terms needing to "fix" everyone and everything not in sync with their own beliefs. Many believe that only their personal truth is real truth because it resonates so strongly with them and therefore it is their spiritual duty to bring others to the "truth" by any means possible, often with judgement and criticism toward anyone who refuses their "truth".
In these times of new and higher dimensional awakenings, many evolving souls are finding themselves confused about what they should to do when confronted by someone a who is struggling through a difficult time. They understand that they should not align with the other's energy, but at the same time feel pressure to step in with advice or action. It is important to honestly examine our intentions when helping others because a great deal of the world's “do gooding” is simply ego based activity that is not flowing from spiritual awareness but rather from a desire for praise and attention.
In the third dimension, there are and always will be problems because it is an energy of duality and separation and will therefore always manifest as pairs of opposites. Over the course of living many lifetimes on earth, people have come to know and experience the pairs of opposites--good/bad, man/woman, young/old, rich/poor, healthy/sick etc. as reality.
Over time people have developed three dimensional solutions to practically every three dimensional problem. Loving souls work very hard to serve in the ways they understand according to their state of consciousness. However, awakening, spiritually evolving individuals are beginning to evolve beyond the old energy into the more highly resonating energies of the fifth dimension. This energetic shift will bring with it a new understanding of love and service and many of the old ways will either disappear or express in higher forms the outer is always a manifestation of the inner.
Human beings live fully in third dimensional consciousness usually do not concern themselves with the problems or suffering of other people or life forms because they believe themselves to be separate from anything or anyone other than what personally concerns them. The three dimensional human get all his pain and pleasure from the physical.
As they work their way through more lifetimes of good, bad, and horrible experiences a tiny sense of connection to others begins to open. He or she may discover that they are becoming more sensitive to others' issues and problems because they are similar to his own. He begins to feel a spark of compassion for animals and other living things and may even find himself drawn to help others although at first it usually involves only his own family or group.
The master Jesus seeded universal collective consciousness with the truth about unconditional love and oneness allowing individuals to access it. Those spiritually ready began to understand and recognize that LOVE IS THE ACTIVITY OF ONENESS. The idea that it was possible, even necessary to love all people and living things not just one's own family or friends was new and as these seeds of truth began to take root in human consciousness, the outer world began to slowly but surely evolve. At that time, few actually understood this sacred truth, but for those ready then and now, came the realization that THAT WHICH I DO TO ANOTHER, I DO TO MYSELF.
When this deeper level of awareness becomes one's state of consciousness, all facets of life begin to manifest as new and higher expressions. He begins to develop compassion those around him, and may be tempted to step in and embrace another's problems (sympathy). He becomes an good listener but does not feel the need to rush around in the belief that it is his duty to fix everything.
An enlightened consciousness understands that outer experiences reflect the state of consciousness of the individual and that lessons need to be learned. He can relax, knowing that everyone is on earth to experience the lessons that they themselves chose pre-birth for spiritual growth. He rests in the realization that every individual has a Higher Self, Guides, and a contract that they themselves set up before coming into this particular experience. He also honestly examines his own state of consciousness, asking; "What am I believing about this situation? Am I giving power to appearances? What is the spiritual truth?"
Relieved of the burden to "save" everyone, the evolved individual is able understand the needs of others from a level of compassion rather than sympathy (alignment). He does what he is intuitively guided to do, taking whatever human footsteps are necessary, but always respecting individual choice. He knows that there is no one needing to be saved for every person is in and of the Infinite ONE (God). His hand is always ready and available should another reach out, but he fully understands that there is NEVER OBLIGATION to reach into the "gutter" and force someone to change who has chosen to stay in the gutter. Saving those who do not want to be saved is often an ego exercise and may interfere with someone's chosen lesson. Many are still in need of intense third dimensional experiences in order to evolve.
This new way of seeing the problems of others never means handing someone a stone when their need is for a piece of bread while loudly proclaiming; “God is all, everything is illusion…” This would be very three dimensional indeed and indicate that one's consciousness was not as evolved as one thought.
Spiritual love acknowledges the spiritual truth about every person and if possible or guided helps to meets their needs, not their wants.
At first this way of working can be confusing because from our higher perspective, we find we can easily see the another's issues and the temptation is to rush in with advice. If the individual is receptive to our awareness of the issues involve, we can give our advice, but it must be done without attachment to a particular outcome, force, conditions, or demands and always respecting of the person's choices.
In order to live the spiritual sense of service, one must learn to listen and trust their intuition in every situation and learn the difference between needs and wants (for self and others). Release old programing regardless of pressure that may come from those around you. Unconditional love is the ability to drop an individual along with any negative appearances and deal with whatever beliefs you may still hold about the person. The highest level of service you can give is to acknowledge every person regardless of appearances as God individualized. Silently and secretly say to every person you meet; "I know you who you are, Christ, the son of God"
All are Divine beings having human experiences no matter how ignorant they may be of this. Take whatever human footsteps you are guided to take but only after knowing the truth about them which will result in an inner freedom from the burden of “saving the world”.
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